Let me just start by saying that this woman is a wonderful woman. She's one of the kindest and most selfless people I've ever met and I am very grateful to have met her regardless of how things between us are now. The issue is that for the past four months, I haven't been able to get in touch with her. I've tried calling and texting. I texted at least twice a week for the past four months and got no response. My calls were all declined, and I was very worried about her until I heard from another friend that she was going through hard times. I felt very bad for sher because this person deserves the world. I sent her more encouraging texts after hearing about that and understood why she "ghosted" me.
On her birthday I sent a message that was also left on unread. She's back online now and I'm happy to see that she's doing much better now, but it's seriously messing with my head that she's still "ignoring" me. I keep thinking up scenarios in my head that maybe I've offended her somehow. Like I said, this is an amazing person who has been very encouraging, supportive and helpful to me in the past. And she is one of very few people I would keep texting even after my previous messages went unanswered.
The situation is messing with me a lot because I hate feeling like I'm bothering someone and that's how my months of several unanswered messages is making me feel.
I'm thinking about just letting her be and not reaching out to her again until she reaches out to me. Maybe she is still dealing with stuff and can't associate with me. I dunno but it's messing with me now. What do I do, guys?
Hey Dear,
I understand how hurt and confused you are. Sometimes people may seem okay but could be going through stuff that we don't know about. At the same time, your mental health is important. I think you've done your best to show your friend that you care by continuously checking up on her. Maybe it's time to leave things as they are until you hear from her. Letting go is hatd sometimes, but you need to do it for yourself. Sending you hugs.❤
Hi,
I understand how you are feel and I believe your feelings are very valid. The person is supposedly a friend and they shouldn't ghost you. Friends don't ghost one another. You love her and you won't be made to suffer for that. I'm sorry for her actions.
Another person told you she was going through nice times, that means she most likely told that person and yet she couldn't tell you? That's not friendship.
I am going through something similar where a friend is no longer communicative with me. I text her, she replies but that is it. Till the next time I say hello. It stings but I am slowly telling myself that we are no longer friends but it would have been nice if she had just said it. She said she's going through things. I am too. Yet, I find ways to say hi.
Sis, it's okay to be sad and to grieve for the love you had for her and the love you thought shared. It is very valid. You deserve to know when someone doesn't want to be your friend anymore. You deserve to have your feelings considered.
I'm so sorry for her actions again. You can send her a message telling her how you feel and that it is okay if she doesn't want to be your friend anymore but you still care about her and it would be nice if she simply told you how she is feeling.
If she doesn't respond to that, please prioritize your well-being and move on. There's an abundance of love waiting for you ahead.